I believe it is fair to say that this form of dating is a training manual for divorce, because it encourages young people to grow accustomed to giving their hearts away and then taking them back. You are commenting using your Google account. By the time you would be married with a family, you would come to realize, in hindsight, that you wish you had chosen to save it all up for your husband — everything: From there, you obviously need a response from the woman to know whether or not things will go any further. And through prayerful discernment you keep the balance between the head and the heart: Get to know one another in groups, find out how the other person reacts to people, spend time with the people he or she cares about. These are simply suggested applications of biblical principles.
What is the purpose of dating?
When Should a Christian Start Dating?
The idea is to remove that period of confusion or vulnerability for the woman by being forthright from the beginning about what level of intention or commitment exists a la 1 Thessalonians 4. In the meantime, while young people are waiting to reach that ever-illusive economic readiness point, they are dating for longer and longer periods and often falling into sexual sin, having children out of wedlock, and getting jaded by having multiple dating partners who never make a commitment. If you go out on one or two dates with someone and you can see that there really is nothing there — step back. Electricians make good money, for example. For example, my younger brother had a very good female friend growing up. It helps you to keep your head and your heart in line with each other. Most teenagers lack both!